Looks totally fine. It just hurts, I know. It looks big enough for you, you even have space next to your ear, so I wouldn't worry about moving the ears out. What hurts is the two pieces on the side that comes in, and that's something that you might not be able to help. Try a shoulder pad or something...Wow, you're lucky, you have tabs! All of mine fell off, they were fragile. He never gave me a hose either. Is your hose split down the center on the other side? I am wondering if it's just a tube to stick cable wires in.