just a question...

This is a very hard situation to be in, its happened to me in the past also, in my opinion you should just leave the girl without giving her the benefit of any talking just try and move on and act as if you couldnt give a dam about her or what she done to you. As for the friend in my case i didnt speak to him for about 2 years and slowly we became friends again. It all depends on how you feel though, but definately dont give her another chance (n):angry

Hope it all works out for the best brother.

Steve
 
:confused :confused

Oooof. :( :facepalm :angry

I gotta say, IMO it's not as cut and dry as all that. Fact is, the "friend" although a friend, is still a man. When it comes right down to it, it's the girl who has the say so when it comes to the "sheets". I say, cut ties with the girl, and keep the friend. Punish him for it, but don't necessarily put all of the blame on him. If he's really your friend, he feels horrible. Now that it's happened, he'll think twice before even thinking about doing that to you again if you handle it right. ( I'm not talking about bro's before "...." either). Although it sounds like it I'm sure.

What it comes down to is, boys will be boys. There is scientific fact to it. Some just don't have the moral/intestinal fortitude to handle a situation like this without caving in. Which is why we get such a bad rap. The girl on the other hand, should have nipped it in the bud before it went too far. It's testament that she's no good for you, and WILL do it again in the future.

I'm sorry this happened to you man

2 cents ...


FP

Well its that cut and dry to me, if we were good friends for a long period of time then you can bet the farm that we're threw. I'm sorry but if this ever happened to me then scientifically or not then your a scum bag and I would'nt need people like that in my life. Lets just say you banged your friends girl, how the hell are you going to try to explain yourself and reason with him to stay cool. Think about it. All I know is if this happens to me then look for me on CNN, it won't be pretty.
 
Well its that cut and dry to me, if we were good friends for a long period of time then you can bet the farm that we're threw. I'm sorry but if this ever happened to me then scientifically or not then your a scum bag and I would'nt need people like that in my life. Lets just say you banged your friends girl, how the hell are you going to try to explain yourself and reason with him to stay cool. Think about it. All I know is if this happens to me then look for me on CNN, it won't be pretty.


Word! I'm with you all the way man.
 
Leave her, end the situation, but next time you see them be extra nice to them!! They'll wonder what you are plotting, constantly look over their shoulder, and it'll make them very nervous. :)
In the long run(because you never made a fuss about it), you'll turn out to be the bigger man and may even end up being friends with them in the end.


It happened to me, that's what I did, and I still talk to the couple.
That was 8 years ago.
 
Leave her, end the situation, but next time you see them be extra nice to them!! They'll wonder what you are plotting, constantly look over their shoulder, and it'll make them very nervous. :)
In the long run(because you never made a fuss about it), you'll turn out to be the bigger man and may even end up being friends with them in the end.


It happened to me, that's what I did, and I still talk to the couple.
That was 8 years ago.


Wow! Your the bigger man indeed. My hats off to you bro. I dont know if I would be able to do that.(y)
 
Man, I'm with FP on this...I would let your bro know he is at the low end of the totem pole, but still keep him a friend. As for the woman, cut ties and draw the lines...give her the boot and then in a couple weeks or months when she is missing you, just keep standing your ground. You will find someone who wont do that **** to you, thats assured.

Man....I don't know about that one. You would seriously keep a friend who slept with your girlfriend?! You guys are crazy!! That guy is NOT your friend. Boys will be boys is bull and EVERYONE knows that. We aren't animals. We are humans, and that guy made a choice. It wasn't instinct; he MADE the choice. He is a low life who doesn't even deserve the time of day. I really am suprised anyone would even think that!

I don't want to push any buttons...I guess people just think VERY VERY differently...
 
Man....I don't know about that one. You would seriously keep a friend who slept with your girlfriend?! You guys are crazy!! That guy is NOT your friend. Boys will be boys is bull and EVERYONE knows that. We aren't animals. We are humans, and that guy made a choice. It wasn't instinct; he MADE the choice. He is a low life who doesn't even deserve the time of day. I really am suprised anyone would even think that!

I don't want to push any buttons...I guess people just think VERY VERY differently...

ya definitely... makes me mad hearing "men are pigs" or "men are only out for tail" when any party I go to it's the woman and not the men who sleep around like crazy >.>
 
Me man, me not bad, me not treat women bad, not like caveman. me like women, me treat with respect, me no not why women be mean.................................... seriously is this what its come to. The whole its in are nature to be a manwhore is old. Not all women are cheats and not all men only live to steal there friends girl. This is a case of two people who more or less are scum, scum, scum ,scum. Pizza man is better off without them.
 
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Me man, me not bad, me not treat women bad, not like caveman. me like women, me treat with respect, me no not why women be mean.................................... seriously is this what its come to. The whole its in are nature to be a manwhore is old. Not all women are cheats and not all men only live to stael there friends girl. This is a case of two people who more or less are scum, scum, scum ,scum. Pizza man is better off without them.

tru.dat
 
IMO Sell her to Jabba, freeze your friend and hang him on your wall... and continue to stand there looking awesome!

El1te
 
Speaking only from personal experiance.... nothing good will come out of keeping her around.

I had a GF that cheated on me (obviously)... we tried again but the trust was gone. Later i found out that before she got together with me she cheated on her ex with me.

I still have contact with her though every now and then, around the holidays and such... she says she still thinks of me a lot and the "what ifs".. so i guess that is my revenge... keeping her guilt alive.

Right now i'm living in an apartment with a lovely girl and with a 5 month old son (who apparently loves Lightsabers as seen in my other thread) and i couldn't be happier.

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Oh and by the way. Their feelings are their problems. Don't get suckered in to feeling sorry for them. Besides.. You have to tend to your own feelings of hate, abandonement, jealousy, resentment or whatever you might be feeling atm. so don't sell yourself cheap by feeling sorry for them. They don't deserve it. You deserve better.

And coincidently.. i happend to listen to Slipknots' "Duality" at the time.. A LOT.. for some reason it was the only song that i could "let it all out" with and i fellt that it expressed some of the emotion i had in me at the time..
 
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what's with all the gals doing the stepping out these days? i mean i know men have always cheated, and that's dead wrong in my opinion, and likely woman have as well. but, it just seems like women are stepping out more now than ever. it's just the deterioration of our moral compass. no one, or very few, take the time to teach their kids right from wrong. then they get out in the "real world" and are taught all the self indulgant amoral bs that's being crammed down our throats. i mean, i'm no quaker in my beliefs but, what's wrong with opening doors for women, giving up your seat for a woman or the elderly, teaching kids right from one, being faithful to who you're with etc.

my best friend got home from a year in korea a few months back. he was welcomed with a 1 month old daughter. you do the math. needless to say, his nearly 10 year marriage came to an end. about a year and a 1/2 ago, my wife of 7 years and i split and divorced after she "couldn't handle being a cops wife". she had been out having inapproprite relationships with men. she claims no full on cheating but i can't say i believe her. we tried to work through things for 3 years, mostly because we had 2 children together. ultimatly after tons of pain and finally becoming numb i decided i was done. i've talked to friends from high school, i come from a small conservative christian farm community btw, and found out that many of their wives and girlfriends have played them as well.

i just don't get it. i've been with girls i flat out loathed and never cheated on them. where is peoples self control?

as for your friend, he's as guilty as her. f-him.
 
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