Fett blaster. I used to golf, it didn't take. I refuse to get married to a non SW woman, so thats my short answer
I would tend to agree with Voltaire here, I've got a girlfriend who's funny, gorgeous, and loves me, and loves Star Wars, and anything I LOVE.
She also loves the 501st, I lent her my anakin outfit, and she tailored it to her size, all on her own, and then attended several 501st events with me, and I can see myself with her for the rest of my life, and she told me she wanted to get married to me, and things are just perfect, you have to find that someone who loves you for you, and not just part of you, but all of you, because you have to be together for a whole lifetime, and you might as well enjoy it.
So If I were you, I'd tell the wife, listen honey, this is me, this is who I am, and I'm not gonna change, it would make me so happy if you could see it from my perspective, because the simple things like this are things that I enjoy.
Or something like that...I'm not married, so....I don't know for sure...but hey, worth a shot