Hello to my TDH family
I am very passionate about this. This post stems from reading another thread and I just want to have my say. I hope this helps someone.
I have a comment to all of the "vendors". I follow this as well.
"Don't take money until you know you can give full attention to the item ordered"
It is an ethics "thing" and an integrity "thing". You do not have to believe in any religion to know that "Do unto others" makes good sense. I am not a business. I know this. Every time I take an order, I befriend the person ordering. This is not the same as being a checker at Walmart. We are in a community here. We are connected in one way or another. This is not an assembly line. There is a person there, sending me their hard earned income. As of this very date, I have had only two "customers" that I can consider wealthy. The rest of us are just living. Even some of my friends who I consider to have more than I, are losing it, just as we all are in this day and age. To digress, I think the people that have more, are losing more. We are ALL feeling it!
I must admit, there are times when I NEED the money that I make from sewing. I don't think that is a big shock to anyone, but I just make a point not to mention that, except in this instance.
I do not use my orders as a CASH ADVANCE. My customers are not my lending bank. At those times when I can use some extra cash, I just kick it into high gear and sew more. I don't kick it into gear and take more payments. I work more on the sewing, and then take more orders. I contact those who are interested in ordering and tell them that I will be ready to take their payment soon. Then they are ready to send money, but I do not receive the money until ready to start on their particular item.
Most of everyone here has a life issue. If we don't know, then we have at one time, or we know that it can happen at any time. That is what makes the community great. We have compassion. Everyone here has shown so much patience. We all know that it is wrong to bash someone on the boards. That our typing lives on forever and it is not something taken lightly. We have restraint.
But, as a vendor, I must say that we too must have this same ethic and attitude. I am not "special". I do not live with the motto, "I make a product that others can't, and I have special privileges, because I have a skill"
I have no right to take others money and make them wait, without a word about what is going on. A good word, not an excuse, about exactly what is happening. It is not difficult.
I do get somewhat indignant when I hear it has happened to someone.
It may be painful to explain to someone else. Perhaps embarassing, or a myriad of other negative emotions,
But it is possible to tell someone, "I am having some issues" without a big description. And them check in with them every couple of days to let them know you did not forget that you are holding their hundreds of dollars.
If someone has had a problem with a vendor, and done everything they can to resolve it, they have EVERY RIGHT to post here. Not to bash and complain, but to make others aware. It is for information purposes. We all know each other as well, and one person here, may be able to contact the persons involved to help get things resolved. As long as there is no BASHING, I think it is only fair.
Let us also remember...........
Costuming is an escape. The statistics show that people who have less income, donate more. Back in the depression, the board game Monopoly made such a HUGE impact, because people could play it and escape. This hobby accomplishes both. We can donate our time to charities, make people smile, which in turns makes us smile and we can escape.
The money spent on this costume is no "chump change". I have thought about starting a custom, which would be much less expensive, but I have not even attempted it. To make a screen accurate Fett, it is an insane amount of money and time. I never take this lightly.
I hope this is received in the tone that I am trying to express.
Thanks for listening to MHO